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Navigating the Double-Edged Sword of Social Media in Modern Relationships
Has social media become the third wheel in your relationships? Join us as we tackle this pressing issue with our spirited panel of friends: Antoine, Alyssa, and Jay. Antoine kicks off the conversation by dissecting influencer culture, revealing how it sets the bar too high with flawless portrayals of life and love, potentially leaving real relationships languishing in dissatisfaction. Alyssa weighs in with her observations on the chasm between online personas and actual interactions, adding layers of complexity to our digital lives. Our friend Jay offers a refreshing perspective, acknowledging both the inspiration and the pitfalls that social media brings to modern relationships. As for myself, I can't help but muse on the fairy tale ideals social media lures us into chasing, often leaving us teetering between motivation and frustration.
Is it possible for digital communication to truly replace the warmth of face-to-face interaction? We dive into this debate, recognizing the convenience and safety nets that online chats provide, especially for the younger crowd. Yet, the irreplaceable value of physical presence in cementing relationships cannot be overlooked. From celebrating love publicly to risking exposure of infidelity, we examine social media's double-edged sword. As we navigate these turbulent waters, the challenge of maintaining authentic connections in a hyper-connected world becomes glaringly apparent.
In a world rife with digital drama, can trust survive the social media spotlight? Hear cautionary tales of fake personas and the havoc they wreak on unsuspecting individuals, and listen to personal stories of misunderstandings fueled by online antics. We delve into the delicate art of balancing one's online presence with nurturing meaningful relationships offline. With an emphasis on self-awareness and spotting red flags early, we offer insights into avoiding the unnecessary drama that often accompanies digital interactions.
Good afternoon you guys. It is your boy, mr Zachary, on his Western 2. We are here, just the two of us, broadcast season four. Let's say we came a long way. We wrapped up season three. We had an amazing time seeing and hearing all the guests, their story backgrounds, and now we are here with season four, with Twists and Turns, and this time we have a panel. First up I would like to introduce to you. He is my frat brother, he is my good friend. He already been on here before. You heard of him on season three, episode one. Jay, how you doing today?
Speaker 2:Baby, child. We here, we are here.
Speaker 1:That's the we are here. The second person I want to introduce she's a good friend of mine. She is a poet and she's a really good poet. You know her, alyssa, how you doing.
Speaker 4:I'm doing good. I'm very happy to be here.
Speaker 1:And turn out she actually is my co-host. But everybody who's on here is my co host as well, not like Felice. He's been here on season two. He's been here on season three. You know you love him. You know you like him. You know sometimes you have to disagree with him. Sometimes, antoine, how you doing.
Speaker 3:I'm doing good. Thanks for the introduction. You don't have to disagree with me, by the way.
Speaker 4:You can agree with me.
Speaker 3:You stupid.
Speaker 1:So today's conversation we are going to talk about social media impact on modern relationships, social media impact on modern relationships. So I want to know from each of y'all what that means to you, and I start with Antoine first.
Speaker 3:So my view about social media as a chance to modern relationships I also think it has a deep impact on it. Because with the whole intuitive culture, I think everybody has a deep impact on it. Because with the whole influencer culture, I think everybody has this idea like, oh my life isn't you know, I guess good if I'm not living like how this person on social media is living or whatever. And obviously people they'll be like they should have a good side relationship on social media. So everybody starts judging based off of that. If their life isn't reflecting that, I think it's a problem in some situations.
Speaker 1:Alyssa, what about you?
Speaker 4:I think the biggest impact social media has on modern relationships has to be the connection with people. Yeah, it's easy to connect with people online, but when you go face-to-face you can't put on a persona unless you want to pretend to be someone you're not, which that's a whole other can of worms.
Speaker 1:Talk about it. What about you, Jay?
Speaker 2:The way I feel about it is and it's meaning to me it's very fluid, it fluctuates. There's the good side to it, but then there's that bad side as well, and I feel like you have to find a healthy balance to it. When it comes to social, you know social media and your dating life.
Speaker 1:Okay, I think for me, I would say that how it play a modern relationship. I think everybody wants this fairy tale. I'll see something on social media that they don't have in their relationship, or something that is missing, or something like oh, something motivate them, or something that get them angry, like, hmm, my spouse does that. Hmm, we need to talk about this, why we haven't done this yet. So that's what it means to me to come with modern relationships. So have you ever felt pressure to present a perfect relationship online and how does it affect in real life, in your own relationships, your past or present? Anybody?
Speaker 4:Well, let's see. Sorry, I'm trying to find a good way to phrase it. I think it's easy to be jealous of something when you don't know the whole story. When you see a rotten apple and it looks pretty on the outside, you know you want to take a bite of that apple, but you don't know that it's actually rotten.
Speaker 4:You can't see that it's rotten. It is very easy for the abuser to go online and put this persona that they're this great person and they have this healthy relationship, when that's not the truth at all. So in a way I guess I do, but also I really don't.
Speaker 1:Okay, what about you, jay?
Speaker 2:Lord Jesus, I don't know, it's kind of tricky For me, lord, I don't know how to put it Because For me there's been some there's been good and bad when it comes to, like you know, having social media. There's been some, there's been good and bad when it comes to, like you know, having social media being involved with my relationship because, like said earlier, you know, it does give you ideas on things that can, um and you know, and like, uh, that can spice up your relationship or improve it. But then there's those things where you're just scrolling and you're looking and you're just like damn, my partner does do that, it gets you thinking and sometimes that can be in a good way and it can be in a negative way.
Speaker 1:What about you, Antoine?
Speaker 3:It's weird I think we talked about this before. I'm single and I haven't really been in a real relationship like that to the point to like say, if it's affecting my relationship, wise aspect. But I would say, when it comes to dating, I do think social media has it kind of has a positive and negative effect to it. More negative only because, um, I don't know, it's kind of hard to explain Like some people just have like a certain expectation based off of what they think the current trend is or whatever going on in life, and it's like that kind of takes away the human aspect of like trying to get to know someone for who they are versus like who you think is supposed to be based off of what the current trend is on social media.
Speaker 1:so that's my view on it all right, since you are coming from a single point of view, when you see these relationships you know on instagram, facebook, facebook, tiktok, youtube, how? Do you feel, looking at it being single and be like, damn, I wish I had that. That could have been me. How do you feel when you see those things?
Speaker 3:I pick up a romance book. Honestly, oh, say what.
Speaker 4:No, you're good, I pick up a romance book so I can get my little, my little dose not a romance, not a romance.
Speaker 3:I might need to pick me up a little romance book or one of them like erotica books, like that's why you do, you say Antoine um, I actually don't feel no way when I see most of the stuff, because I guess I've been to a point in life already when it's like I would see stuff and like feel type way about it, think like, dang, I wish I had that. But then as I just like move, you know, through life and like start understanding people and how fake a lot of people can be, it's like I see good stuff online but I know behind the scenes that's not what it always is. So it's like I'm not gonna sit and look at my life like dang, I wish I was doing better. Hey, they going on. I'm like, hey, I don't know what that's going on in life or what I've been through to even get to that point.
Speaker 2:So it's like I'm not gonna let that pull me back if you don't have to worry about it okay, okay, yeah, I agree with him, like um, especially like when I see like lordy with tiktok and youtube couples, I'm like I just look at it and I scroll right on past. I'm like, okay, girl, that's how I feel about it because, like a lot of times, a lot of the stuff is just fun, clickbait, maybe you, just your views, that's all it is. So I don't really pay attention to them, them girls anyway.
Speaker 2:But now when I I do see things online like I have, I would say I have, um, maybe two good friends that are like, have been in like long standing, long standing relationships and you know they'll be posting their you know little cute stuff. And I'm just like, oh, you know little cute stuff. And I'm just like, oh, you know, that's real nice. I'm like, oh, it must be nice, I wish I had that. And I think the only reason I would say that for that situation is because I know those individuals personally. I know that this is real. You know, this is real.
Speaker 1:I know for a fact Some of these other, you know, these little social media couples. I'm just like eh, how much is this really true? Like, how good is y'all really good? Exactly so, like I think one thing you said my homegirl. One thing you said you pick up a romance book. So why do you pick up a book? Is it just because you want your mind to go someplace else?
Speaker 4:It's because imagination is almost always better than reality, Especially at a college campus. It is hard to talk to people because everyone is in their own life, they're all doing their own things, they're all thinking about things and it's hard to start up a conversation, you know. And then dating apps, let's do. There's a lot that can go wrong on a dating rap, a dating app for a single woman. So there's that. And I'm also not in a place mentally where I should be in a relationship, you know.
Speaker 4:I've got out of of I got out of being hurt and I am still healing so that I don't continue the cycle okay.
Speaker 1:So you said something about like not being in the right space, like mentally, why you think it's very important to be in the right space when it comes down to starting relationships that are want to go back into that dating pool there is a really good saying that I like.
Speaker 4:All right and it's a little weird, so just stay with me. If you pee in a cup and you put sugar in it, the sugar does not get rid of the pee. Right, right, right. You have to filter the pee right to get it out of your cup before you put sugar in it. You know, that's the way I think of it.
Speaker 4:You know, I think when you've been hurt and when you're angry even when you think you're over it you take it out on other people because you don't know how to deal with it yourself. And I think to be in a relationship. I know that if I was the other person, I know it would not be fair to me to be treated that way, so why should I? Treat someone that way.
Speaker 2:I want a relationship, but I want to love someone properly, like they deserve. That's true. That kind of goes to the saying you know, hurt people, hurt people Absolutely.
Speaker 1:I mean Now I have Don't judge me. You can judge me, but you can't Like judge me, judge me. I feel like in the past, my life, I have hurt other people Because I feel like.
Speaker 1:I don't say this. I feel I always had need that attention, approval when it come down to Me dating Other people or breaking up. I feel I always need that attention or approval when it comes down to me dating other people or breaking up and getting into another relationship. Breaking up, getting into another relationship and it don't give you time to heal. And you know I always go to social media and be posting like, oh, I hate guys. Or like, oh, he played me, I'm about to expose these people. Like you know, it plays a lot of role and, as I learned growing up, growing up now in my relationship, I don't like to post a lot of things about my relationship because you know people are wishing on your downfall.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:At every little thing that you do. So why should I post, like, cute pictures? I do post cute pictures sometimes, but not all the time. Or give you a quote if you want to sit here and bash my relationship, or get in my inbox to start to talk to me, trying to get in your way to nudge in between us. So, as Antoine, how is mental health important when it comes down to you know starting a relationship or you know, getting into one?
Speaker 3:Well, I think it's very important, because the last thing you want to do, especially when you're trying to bring someone new into your life or be known as somebody else the last thing you want to do is come into life as a burden, unpacking all your past dramas on them, and it's like it's kind of the point where I think people should be there for each other, like you want to be there for your partner, but the last thing you want to do is feel like everything you're talking to your partner the conversation is always about oh, in the past, somebody did this to me and I've been to this. After a while, you're going to start to push that person away and feel like, well, dang, and you can bring it up, and then every little thing I do I'm getting judged based off of what person in the past is. So that's why I think it's important to like take time, you know, and heal, get your mental together and then get back out there and try to, like you know, date and find somebody. So you know.
Speaker 1:Well, like she said, you know, repeat the cycle in a sense, understandable. Understandable. So do you believe that online interaction can replace the general face-to-face communication in relationships?
Speaker 2:Why and why not? In what way?
Speaker 1:I believe it is Well anyway, like what do you?
Speaker 2:mean? And how do you interpret it, jay? I don't know. I'm going to let y'all dive in first, and then I'm going to see where my mind goes. Go ahead, go ahead Antoine.
Speaker 3:I don't want to say it can replace face-to-face interactions, but I do think it just depends on the people. And the sad thing is the majority of our culture now is like online is kind of the way to go, because everybody's face is already stuffing their phone anyway. So it's like like let's just say you're on a college campus and it's like it's hard to, you know, talk to people because everybody's kind of in their own bubble, as it is already. So it's like when you do approach somebody, for some reason, people now just think everything is weird or it's an it Like, oh, this guy walked into me, they were talking to me, and it's like, oh, that's an it. And I'm like what are you talking about? We're humans, I'm glad you did it.
Speaker 3:So, like the same way to do it anyways, it's like you're online. It's like, okay, I'll just swipe here and swipe here, post my swipe back on me and then we can match and then we can hopefully have a conversation. If you know, if it's actually somebody who actually had a conversation, not just one word the whole time. So I don't know. I just think like it all depends on the people and mentality of the individuals and how it can go Okay, of the individuals and how you go okay.
Speaker 1:So listen like you want. You know you're on college campus. You know you are getting firsthand of. You know students being on their phones talking rather than you know putting the phone down, going outside, go meet people. You know hanging out like you've seen it like. How does it make you feel that this generation is all about technology and being on the phone and not face to face having a conversation?
Speaker 4:I think part of it is the convenience. You know, it's very easy to kind of just go off in your own little world and not, you know, pay attention to what's going on around you, and I think another part of it is a fear. You know we live in a world where it is a so much more dangerous than it, you know to to be you know a woman walking alone at night, um, a gay person walking the street.
Speaker 4:You know there's these dangers because we're aware of different things now and you know not everyone is going to agree but there are people who take it too far. And when they take it too far and you're hurt because of it, it's so much easier to just mind your business and it's sad. But you know, and when you've been raised in that kind of world and conditioned to your, to your phone, you know what else are you supposed to do.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay. What about you, jay? You got your mind together.
Speaker 2:I think so. I feel that I want to say it can replace it, because there's always going to be like that missing. It's going to be that missing piece like, okay, I need you right here, right now.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, I get it because you need. If those people, okay, I'll put this. I take my relationship, for example. I love some guys so we're distant, so we're not face-to-face. So I love hearing from him every single day. We talk every night. We love you, we miss you, we want to see you. But I think it's a little bit different when you talk face-to-face, because you can hold your partner.
Speaker 1:You can play with your partner, you can cuddle with your partner, you can kiss your partner, etc. But yes, I don't think it can replace it. But I feel like 90s generation is like you know, people all on the phone. I think you have to meet people where they're at now, in these days. It goes to my next question what are some positive ways that social media impacts relationships?
Speaker 3:That's a good one.
Speaker 4:Damn I thought it was going to go first. I think one of the easiest positive influence social media does have one of two things. One it's a lot easier to kind of make it known that you're together with somebody, so like it's less likely someone's going to you know, try to get with them and not know they have a person. And two, it makes catching cheaters a lot easier. You make a fake account and a lot of people fall for it what you doing baby girl Like.
Speaker 2:Because one thing about it I'm going to come with the evidence.
Speaker 1:We will get back to that one, because there's a question too, that way. But what about you, antoine?
Speaker 3:It's like okay, so I have to disagree a little bit on what was said. When you said you know, you can, it's supposed to mean to help you, like put it out there that you know, okay, I'm with this person right here, so people know that you're with that person, not the person. Yeah, some people they don't notice people until other people notice that person. So it's like when you put it out there, it's like, oh, I'm the agent's person. Now some people are like, oh, that's who you were. Well, let me go meet this person face now, all of a sudden, because they see that person. So it's like that could be a positive and a negative of, uh, you know, putting relationships on social media. Um, for me it's kind of hard to think of positive because it's like there's always like some sort of the negative that comes from it. It but Huh.
Speaker 3:So, what's the negative from it? Oh, from social media and relationships. Well, I think the main negative is the constant level of comparison. It's like, okay, you post something about your relationship, somebody else see it. They're like, oh, that's what you're doing. Well, this is what me and my person are doing.
Speaker 3:And then all of a sudden there comes a little competition, and sometimes you don't even have to be a part of the competition, you're just doing what you do. But then somebody has seen what you do and they're just jealous for your happiness. So now it's like they just either want to get in the way of something like so, making a fake kind of real out of your person, talking to that person, and they say, no, it's actually happening, because you don't call them cheating, because they mess with this person right here on the side or something, or just like I don't know it's being a guy and you're in a relationship, but then it's like you're just having to. Oh, are you liking this little picture? No, I just saw it and just happened to swipe by real quick and thought it was a nice picture. Oh, so you didn't see her ass in the picture.
Speaker 1:Like no, I didn't see her ass.
Speaker 3:And then next thing you know, you're single again.
Speaker 2:Sounds like somebody lived through a personal experience.
Speaker 3:Ooh, no shade, that's shady, did you? That happened to me personally, you sure.
Speaker 1:Thank you. You know, jay Jay, you being messy again, you being messy again. But I will say this I think one of y'all said previously like catching cheaters. You know one thing I have found out have stalkers yeah they have stalkers, and I'm not a big fan of stalkers. I have one of those. I have people you know. Take my pictures and do know what. Guys know what it was. Take my pictures and do know what. God knows what it was about my pictures.
Speaker 2:Okay, because, honestly, out of all pictures you could have took, you took mine. You took mine I mean, I think it's a privilege. So thank you, but okay.
Speaker 1:The thing is, what picture you choosing Right? Hey, you can ask me personally.
Speaker 4:You think they plan this out in a little daily planner Like alright, 11 o'clock, gotta take a picture of Zach Alright, I think so.
Speaker 1:You don't think that?
Speaker 2:I think so I hope not, because that's sad, that's sad.
Speaker 1:It's a whole other level of pollution.
Speaker 3:The thought about somebody sending a plan at 11 o'clock to take pictures.
Speaker 1:Oh wait, hold on. What are you trying to say? This is the point I'm starting to get. Like 11 o'clock, that's just a weird-ass fucking time. The fact that like how about a planner?
Speaker 2:Because at that time I'm having a minute of that snack and you're here planning. Look how political.
Speaker 1:This shit is right, so just hit me. I'm having a minute of that snack. You were here playing. Look how cool this shit is right. Just hit me, all right. So I stopped Jay, right, I stopped Jay for six months. I know your work schedule, I know what time you go to sleep, I know what time you get in the house, all right. And I'd be like, hmm, how can I get Jay to be my boyfriend? And the fact that you don't know I know all this information about you and I finally asked you on a date. Now, you don't know that. I know what you like, so in your mind, you are oh, he's a great guy.
Speaker 2:You're going through all your lists, all your check marks. I'm like damn no.
Speaker 1:I'm going to be like what the fuck are you talking about Exactly? But I don't think people think about that at all. Then the guy be like oh okay, now we're together. Then it turns out you go to his house and spend the night and you see a closet of you, stumbling on a bunch of pictures of you. You don't think that's weird?
Speaker 4:No, no, listen, you leave out the window.
Speaker 2:Okay, it's giving me silence of the lamp. It puts the lotion on its skin. Uh-oh, that's what it's giving me.
Speaker 1:That's so vulgar. Straight out the window.
Speaker 4:No hesitation. I don't care if I'm breaking my limbs.
Speaker 1:Okay, bitch, I'm dying, I'm dying tonight. That's the fun, I'm dying, I'm dying tonight. Then he's going to be like where you going? You know I'm going to the restaurant. You know I'm going to the restaurant. I forgot something about the bar. You know what? You know what I'm going to text one of my friends hey, call me. It's that, bro, I don't give a damn, just call me.
Speaker 2:I ain't even talking. I'm probably the nearest, heaviest object and hitting and running, no talking.
Speaker 4:I don't run.
Speaker 2:I'm going to walk at a brisk pace, okay, so.
Speaker 1:It goes into my next question. Have you ever experienced or seen a relationship Negatively affected by internet interaction? Like emotionally cheating, oversharing, overreacting or just Misunderstanding? Like emotionally cheating, oversharing, overreacting or just misunderstanding?
Speaker 2:I went to a public high school.
Speaker 4:I have so many of these stories. We got time, we could be here all night. My favorite one has to be this girl was dating this guy, right. And they were dating for I think four months right Turns out. The guy had created a fake guy right and they were dating for I think four months right Turns out.
Speaker 4:The guy had created a fake account right and became her friend through that account, right, learned about her and then stopped responding to her, right. So obviously she freaks out and the dude loses his mind, right. And when the police were called, you want to know what they told her. What did they tell her? Well, you can't really prove that he created it, bitch, despite it being on his phone. Their thinking was, well, anybody could have logged in on it. So, yeah, she ended up having to switch schools because of it. Like social media makes crazy people have a little too much power.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Especially when it go into, like I said earlier, like the go to the little mind of Fairyland, like it's going to be my person. I don't care if they like it or not, that's weird.
Speaker 2:Child I will never forget I had, I was in a relationship.
Speaker 1:How much relationship?
Speaker 2:Huh, no shit, nothing, yeah, oh child, yeah, but babe, I was like it was just a normal day. I'm sitting here eating, drinking my wine and I get, I'm starting to get yelled at and first of all, if you know me, when I'm lost I'm starting to get yelled at and first of all, if you know me, when I'm lost I'm lost. I'm looking at you like huh. So I'm like what is going on? And I'm getting accused of having a dating profile, and so I was like what? I was like how? I was like what in the world? I was like why do you think that? And so they show me this profile now and it's a picture of like, I guess, just like somebody's bodies chest, and so I look at the picture, I look at them and I look at the picture again. I said that's not even my fucking body. Like, if you're dating me and we done been together for a little minute and you seen me naked, you would know that's not my damn body. The excuse was oh, this could be an old picture.
Speaker 3:The way.
Speaker 2:I looked at that man and I told him. I said you done, really done, some crack today, and I walked away. I was like, come on, like don't do that, don't play with my body. Nah, you know how my body look. Okay, you know, my body get tea.
Speaker 1:Tea, not too much. Okay, what about you, antoine?
Speaker 4:Oh, he gone to sleep?
Speaker 2:His stalker did got him. Sure, is that planner guys? Are you back, antoine? Oh, he's going to sleep. His stalker did got him too. He's got the stalker.
Speaker 1:Is that planner guys? Are you back?
Speaker 3:Antoine. Oh yeah, Someone called me. I was trying to cancel the call.
Speaker 2:I thought the stalker got you baby. Oh no, they're going to bring him back.
Speaker 1:But no, so, yeah, I had to come back to um, yeah, so you said a situation where, like so the question was have you ever experienced or seen a relationship negatively affected by online interaction, like emotional cheating, oversharing, you know, misunderstanding, liking a picture, you know like a girl be like? Hmm, why are you like all this pressure Girl? It's not that serious, it's okay, it's okay.
Speaker 3:Well, one situation was actually very close to me because I was in the situation, but it was more so like I was talking to someone, probably trying to have something with them, and in person our connection, you know, it was cool, everything was good. I knew them for being one way, but they forgot that we were friends on Twitter Back when Twitter was Twitter. Yeah, but they forgot we were friends on Twitter Back when Twitter was Twitter. But they forgot we were friends on Twitter and they would post stuff on their Twitter account. And then, of course, you know I'm getting notifications, so I'm going to go check out what's going on.
Speaker 3:And I was going down to those tweets and I was like, wait a minute, this ain't the same person I know right here. So then it kind of had me looking at her sideways trying to figure out what's going on here, because the person you present to me in person is not this person right here that I'm seeing on Twitter. But now I'm confused because I can't call out on it, because they're going to look at me. You just stalking me on Twitter. I'm like, well, shoot. So it's like that was kind of what was the stuff she was posting.
Speaker 2:I want to know.
Speaker 3:Huh.
Speaker 2:What was the stuff that she was tweeting? I want to know.
Speaker 3:Oh no, it's just been all kind of stuff, or just. You know, that's kind of how our situation kind of went downhill and I realized she was low-key talking to somebody else and everything. There's a whole lot behind that, but you know, that's in the past, I don't want to dwell on it.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, All right, you don't have to dwell on it, Just you know healing. We say healing your way.
Speaker 3:I'm over that situation. It was so much that I guess at this point I kind of forgot most of the stuff that happened. But I guess at this point I kind of forgot most of the stuff that happened, but I just remember it was a lot of stuff and it just kind of set me on a path to like kind of being a person where it's like I'm comfortable with being myself and it's like, once I see like certain signs, I'm like you know what cool, I ain't about to try to, like, you know, force nothing or try to, you know, give it a chance. Once I see stuff going sideways, I'm out.
Speaker 1:That part that.
Speaker 3:I'm out.
Speaker 1:My last question for y'all each what advice would you give a couple on how to balance their online presence with maintaining a healthy relationship?
Speaker 3:Any advice.
Speaker 1:Well, I'll start.
Speaker 3:I'd say, relationship, any advice? Well, I'll start. I'd say the best advice is restrain and stay up with your partner. Let them know what's going on about all the social media accounts you have, because, even though I think everybody should have had their own life, you know you're with somebody, you're still your own person, but just as a courtesy, you should let your partner know. Like hey, I have a Snapchat, I have a TikTok, I have all these accounts or whatever. So that's always kind of like trust and then it won't have your partner like curious, you know, if they happen to find it on their own, like hey so this thing told me a friend's suggestion that's what you got to count right here, what you got to count right here for, or whatever.
Speaker 3:But yeah, just being open with each other.
Speaker 4:Okay, alyssa, I would say listen to each other. You know, if one partner is like, hey, I don't really feel comfortable posting on Instagram, instead of being like, oh, you're ashamed of me, oh blah blah, just like, OK, why? And then try and kind of come up with some kind of compromise if it's a possibility. You know you love this person, you want them to be happy. You know, and I think that is the that should be the main objective at all times is your happiness and theirs.
Speaker 1:What about you, jay I?
Speaker 2:would just say um, go off. What works for you guys, what? What works for you in the other party? Don't try to. Don't try to build something based off what you're seeing online, because, baby, you never know what's going on behind those closed doors, what demons may be laying.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'll say this I agree with all y'all say I do. On top of that, if you ain't happy, then say you weren't happy. Don't waste that person's time, especially if you're about a trip over social media, because social media will ruin your relationship. Get out. Stop comparing your relationship to other things that you see. It's cool to listen to motivational speakers sometimes. It's cool to have ideas that you and your partner want to do or want to vote on, but do not compare your relationship to other relationships on social media, because you don't know what they are going through on their side. And just be yourself. Don't be nothing that you weren't supposed to be, because, at the end of the day, the truth will set you free. Okay, on that note, I'd like to thank everybody. I'd like to thank my best friend, Antoine. I'd like to give my girl a hug Her first time being on here, y'all.
Speaker 1:I'd like to thank my best friend, antoine. I'd like to give my best friend, cara A, her first time being on here. Y'all I'd like to give my best friend, jay, and you are listening to Just the Two of Us Broadcast Season 4. See y'all later. Bye, bye, bye.
